my brother ( who is 23 btw ) got a dog a year ago, a great dane no less , called Ringo. N's i love that dog to bits, he's lovely. Me and my mum agreed to look after his dog mon-fri when he's at work. But he constantly drops him off/picks him up late , doesn't come for him, or passes him off on us whenever he wants. Me and my mum can never go anywhere because we have to look after HIS dog, and he gets annoyed whenever we go out and can't look after him, even on weekends. He never takes his dog on walks, forgets to feed him , never cleans up after him when he's been to the toilet . He guilt trips us into looking afte thai dog, saying " oh but am i jsut supposed to have no social life the ? i can never go out" and stuff like that. We have a dog of our own we can never take on walks because hsi dog gets jealous and pisses in the house if we don't take him out , so our dog never gets the attention and exercise he needs. His dog also needs to go to the vet ( he keeps chewing his leg and gets sore and bleeds) my mum is the one who pays for ALL the medical stuff. bandages , soothing cream , tea tree oil to deter him from biting his leg. AND she pays for his food ( £40 a month mind you )

we also have to keep him overnight sometimes

surely we aren't the assholes in thsi situation right?

Don't own a dog if you can't look after it yourself, he shouldn't have bought the dog if he can't accept having a pet changes things.

Not at all your brother needs to take care of his own dog. Maybe it would be best if your brother rehomed him? If he can't make time for his dog he doesn't need to have one. It also sounds like he needs some training. Considering he can't be left in the house alone.

Im sorry but your brother needs a couple sharp smacks to the head. Maybe itll rattle his brains back into place?

The next time he guilt trips you, say "This is what owning a dog is like. This dog cant take care of himself, and by bringing him into your family, you assumed the responsibility of caring for him. Your social life is not more important than the well being of Ringo. We agreed to take care of him from monday to friday from 'x' time to 'x' time. You arent meeting those agreements. If you arent ready to care for a dog, give him to someone who can."

You and your mom are absolute angels for caring for this dog and Im sorry hes using you. My heart goes out to you and this dog.

Your brothers the asshole

Personally I'd kick your brother's ass. If HE can't take time to take care of HIS pet then he dosen't need pet. And since he's doing this crap to his dog think what will happen if he has a kid. I'd tell your brother to shape up or you'll rehome the dog since he has no interest in caring for it.

is his dog unable to stay home alone? does he even want the dog?

thankyou all for your input guys :)

he also recently cancel his vetting insurance 🤨

This is just me and my extreme thoughts, but... Just tell him no. From what information you have presented to us, he doesn't really seem all that invested in the dog. It's not your dog, you are not obligated to take care of it if it's inconvinient for you, and hindering you taking care of your own dog. If he throws a fit tell him to hire a dog nanny.

yeah .. i think i will do that. thankyou <3