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Rubygem
05:16:09 Asha ~ Ruby girl :D
well i gotta hop off bye
Rubygem
05:15:42 Asha ~ Ruby girl :D
-HEE Click-

And this is the horse from you that i like
Rubygem
05:15:19 Asha ~ Ruby girl :D
ya but where did you get the pictures did you get them off of google??
Gem Queens Estate
05:14:43 Snow❆Gem
@asha

Oh! I put the link in my bio. :D Go to 'Stable Activities' and then 'Manage Stable Info/Bio.

I think you have to do something with a box and put the link in it?
Rubygem
05:13:44 Asha ~ Ruby girl :D
can i put the link in here of your horse that i like
Rubygem
05:13:07 Asha ~ Ruby girl :D
ok the horse in your stable with black dots i like

but how did you get the pictures in your bio/profile
Gem Queens Estate
05:11:34 Snow❆Gem
@asha

OK, I'm offically confused. lol Is it a HEE horse or a photo?
Rubygem
05:10:18 Asha ~ Ruby girl :D
how did you get that art??
Gem Queens Estate
05:09:54 Snow❆Gem
I guess it used to be called bio. ;P
Rubygem
05:09:44 Asha ~ Ruby girl :D
@Gem

I love you appendix quarter horse with the black dots on it. the amber champagne one
Gem Queens Estate
05:09:26 Snow❆Gem
@asha

Profile actually. ;P
Rubygem
05:07:58 Asha ~ Ruby girl :D
nevermind
Rubygem
05:07:19 Asha ~ Ruby girl :D
bio or backround?
Gem Queens Estate
05:04:43 Snow❆Gem
@asha

Oh yes! Take a look at my pages bio!
Piper Lane Farm
04:58:20 
Dusty, maybe so. Maybe it's all the inbreeding, lol
Rubygem
04:57:14 Asha ~ Ruby girl :D
-Click-

Look at the beautiful picture i found on google
Savannah Stables
04:54:05 Dusty
Maybe HEE just has very high rates of foals born with like deformities that would definitely make them worse
Rubygem
04:53:07 Asha ~ Ruby girl :D
i won :D
*Winter Equines*
04:52:55 Winter/Snowball
Asha, yes :D
*Winter Equines*
04:52:32 Winter/Snowball
Piper, I know, tough there also apparently has been some WWWxWWW matches that have produced SPP, and that if something is crazy

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Rubygem
05:16:09 Asha ~ Ruby girl :D
well i gotta hop off bye
Rubygem
05:15:42 Asha ~ Ruby girl :D
-HEE Click-

And this is the horse from you that i like
Rubygem
05:15:19 Asha ~ Ruby girl :D
ya but where did you get the pictures did you get them off of google??
Gem Queens Estate
05:14:43 Snow❆Gem
@asha

Oh! I put the link in my bio. :D Go to 'Stable Activities' and then 'Manage Stable Info/Bio.

I think you have to do something with a box and put the link in it?
Rubygem
05:13:44 Asha ~ Ruby girl :D
can i put the link in here of your horse that i like
Rubygem
05:13:07 Asha ~ Ruby girl :D
ok the horse in your stable with black dots i like

but how did you get the pictures in your bio/profile
Gem Queens Estate
05:11:34 Snow❆Gem
@asha

OK, I'm offically confused. lol Is it a HEE horse or a photo?
Rubygem
05:10:18 Asha ~ Ruby girl :D
how did you get that art??
Gem Queens Estate
05:09:54 Snow❆Gem
I guess it used to be called bio. ;P
Rubygem
05:09:44 Asha ~ Ruby girl :D
@Gem

I love you appendix quarter horse with the black dots on it. the amber champagne one
Gem Queens Estate
05:09:26 Snow❆Gem
@asha

Profile actually. ;P
Rubygem
05:07:58 Asha ~ Ruby girl :D
nevermind
Rubygem
05:07:19 Asha ~ Ruby girl :D
bio or backround?
Gem Queens Estate
05:04:43 Snow❆Gem
@asha

Oh yes! Take a look at my pages bio!
Piper Lane Farm
04:58:20 
Dusty, maybe so. Maybe it's all the inbreeding, lol
Rubygem
04:57:14 Asha ~ Ruby girl :D
-Click-

Look at the beautiful picture i found on google
Savannah Stables
04:54:05 Dusty
Maybe HEE just has very high rates of foals born with like deformities that would definitely make them worse
Rubygem
04:53:07 Asha ~ Ruby girl :D
i won :D
*Winter Equines*
04:52:55 Winter/Snowball
Asha, yes :D
*Winter Equines*
04:52:32 Winter/Snowball
Piper, I know, tough there also apparently has been some WWWxWWW matches that have produced SPP, and that if something is crazy

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Cousin Moving in August 4, 2022 09:51 PM


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Today I found out that my cousin is probably going to be moving in and it has made me very anxious and upset. Why? My cousin has a lot of behavioral issues (I think she has antisocial personality disorder) and is abusive towards her parents. She refuses to go to school or therapy. Her parents don't know how to enforce boundaries with her and it has created a lot of tension in their home.

I live at home with my Mom and the two of us are very happy living together. But, for some reason my Mom thinks it would be a good idea for my cousin to move in with us.

I don't want my cousin to live in the one place I feel safe! Why should I have to suffer because her parents refuse parent her? My Mom is making me feel guilty because she says I don't care about my cousin or my family which is not true. Their family didn't do anything for me when I was severely depressed so why should I go out of my way to do something for them?

My Mom is hardly ever home so wouldn't have to deal with my cousin, but I would. My biggest fear is having to accomodate her so she doesn't flip out. I am not comfortable with her using my car and wouldn't be surprised if she asked to use my debit card or tried to steal my keys.

I can not move out for at least another 2 years until I am finished with my program. I am not ok with this and need advice!

Edited at August 4, 2022 10:01 PM by Silver Isle Eventing
Cousin Moving in August 5, 2022 09:04 AM


Stormsong Manor

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I would recommend having a family meeting and laying down some solid boundaries and rules before she moves in.
Cousin Moving in August 5, 2022 09:57 AM


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I second this

Stormsong Manor said:
I would recommend having a family meeting and laying down some solid boundaries and rules before she moves in.


Cousin Moving in August 5, 2022 09:33 PM


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Lay down rules and boundries as Stormsong said. If she doesn't like them then she can find another relative to move in with. And maybe moving in with you and your mother may give your cousin the stability she needs in her life since it sounds like she doesn't have any.
Cousin Moving in August 5, 2022 11:11 PM


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Unfortunately, she doesn't follow any boundaries or rules at her own home so why whould she follow them here?

Stormsong Manor said:
I would recommend having a family meeting and laying down some solid boundaries and rules before she moves in.

Edited at August 5, 2022 11:15 PM by Silver Isle Eventing
Cousin Moving in August 5, 2022 11:18 PM


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That's what you have to work out.
"If you don't comply with this/overstep these boundaries/ break this rule then this will happen."
if she acts like a child, then treat her like one.
Rules and boundaries are key, but there also need to be consequences for when/if these rules are broken.
Not only to teach her that she can't do as she pleases, but also to protect you and your mom from anything she tries to do to defy you.
Cousin Moving in August 8, 2022 08:54 PM


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This is so true. Probably the best thing to do^^

Another thing I would do is this: Come up with a list of everything that concerns you, and add all of your reasons. I would sit my mother down and as her to listen and now talk until I am finished talking. This way, she is forced to listen to everything you have to say and think about it without interrupting you or butting in. Come up with your own list of boundaries(what would make you fee unsafe, and for each neg. write down a "solution" for it). Then, work with your mother, talk everything through, and come up with a solution that takes both of your POVs into account. Thorough communication is the only way you can come to a reasonable agreement that takes care of both you and your mother. So whatever you decide to do, just make sure you are talking about it together.


The Mystic One said:
That's what you have to work out.
"If you don't comply with this/overstep these boundaries/ break this rule then this will happen."
if she acts like a child, then treat her like one.
Rules and boundaries are key, but there also need to be consequences for when/if these rules are broken.
Not only to teach her that she can't do as she pleases, but also to protect you and your mom from anything she tries to do to defy you.



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