I still to this day struggle with relationship and trust because of that situation, and seeing him loyal to another when he wasnt to me, and seeing the rock on her finger and being constantly reminded of him and their relationship (by ppl we both know) sucks- but I am stronger and happier because I decided to leave.
And if you can't leave now, start stashing away money (if you haven't already) so you can be in a better spot when you are able to leave and start fresh
I'm 32 and I've been in bad relationships before but this one is just fucked. I say one thing to him that irritatea him which is literally everything I do or say he says you really want to do this? Or you want to fight like no I fucking don't I just want you to listen to me 😫
Eagle, your mental health is important. I went through a similar situation with my situation when I was in my twenties, (im 31) and I stayed because I had step kids.. being in a toxic relationship because of one thing or another isnt healthy girl. Fight for your cats and your stuff. I had to fight my ex over my cat (he said he was taking her and I said over my dead body.. and he knew I was crazy LOL).. but you have to put you first in situations like that.
I have 3 and I have 2 that I know I cant live with out. the 3rd its technically his but icdoclove her. But I couldn't take more than one because of the living situation I'll have if I do move
I wish it was that simple. So much guilt and manipulation. Plus we have cats and I don't want to loose them or have to fight over them. And all the crap I own. Never move in with someone (even it you know them) after a month of dating ... Ive known him for 16 years and been with him for 5 and it's ugh bad