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Confusion and Stress February 9, 2019 01:37 PM

Etoile Noir Elites
 
Posts: 274
#314920
Soooooo.... I have two main issues stressing me out.

1. New meds
2. Theatre professor

1. So I was recently (Tues the 5) diagnosed with ADD, anxiety, and depression by a psychiatrist. I was prescribed Concerta Extended Release 36mg tablets once daily for the ADD. They're on the expensive side ($80 for generic with insurance). And now I think it is causing some bad side effects. Like rapid heart rate, worsened anxiety, headaches, nausea, and irritability. It helps some but mostly in short bursts of concentration. So now I'm worried I wasted $80 on a medication I'll have to throw away and start all over with a new medication. I'm keeping obsessive, thorough notes on symptoms + when I eat and take meds + anything else that might be relevant to show to dr when I go for follow up on the 14th.

2. I think my theatre prof is flirting with me and it is REALLY stressing me out. He is a grad student in the last semester of getting his masters. A pretty cool dude. I just can't tell if he's flirting or if I'm imagining things. And as mentioned it's causing me a lot of anxiety.

Situation 1: First day of class. I ask him after class "what do you want us to call you? Professor (last name)? Mr (last name)? Just (last name)?" To which he replies "You can call me whatever you'd like." *he smiles* "Except Dr (last name)- unless you wanna take me out for dinner." *he smiles again*. I just chuckled awkwardly, thanked him, and left.

Situation 2: Next class, we have a quiz. He reads questions out loud instead of having a handout or putting on a slide. Other people say something along the lines of "can you slow down" or "hey im not done yet." He tells them "I can't stop, you need to keep up." Next question, I protest that he's going too fast and I couldn't finish writing answer. He replies to me, and only me, "oh my gosh (my name) I'm so sorry. I'll wait, go ahead and finish." So I notice he only is doing this for me. I ask for more time on every question, even if I don't need it, so other people can have more time.

Situation 3: About two days later, I have to go to his office to ask him for script for group project. He is chatting with coworkers. I knock. He says to come in and asks whats up. I begin explaining. His coworker is talking to other coworker loudly. He maintains eye contact with me while shushing coworker and tapping coworker's shoulder. He tells coworker "shhh I'm trying to listen to my favorite student and can't hear her cause you're talking."

Situation 4: Next day, in class. Some tech shit happens to where he has to plug his laptop in back stage to do slides, idk i wasn't listening. He comes onto stage and goes "(My name) can you run slides for me so I can just read them from stage and dont have to worry about it?" So I said sure, hesitant. He thanks me and says "you're the only student whose name I've bothered to learn."

Is it just me or is he flirting? There have been other, smaller things said. IDK. I could be reading into it too much and overreacting. I am also the least confrontational person ever and so awkward. So I haven't said anything about it to him.

Edited at February 9, 2019 02:06 PM by Etoile Noir Elites
Confusion and Stress February 9, 2019 02:04 PM
Silent Symphony🥀
 
Posts: 28
#314946
All I can say is Trust your gut you have feelings and instincts for a reason
Edited at February 9, 2019 02:04 PM by Silent Symphony🥀
Confusion and Stress February 9, 2019 02:06 PM
hawksmoor
 
Posts: 1
#314948
I've taken Concerta before and had similar side effects. My doctor has me on both anti-anxiety and ADD medication, and being on the anti-anxiety as well has helped push back the side effects while letting my concentration improve. Definitely take those notes to your doctor and they will help you figure out what's best for you - I'm not trying to offer you medical advice, to be clear, medicine affects each person differently and your doctor will know what to do. But taking notes on your symptoms and side effects is a great idea and will help your doctor a lot!

The professor may or may not be flirting, but the favoritism is really unprofessional regardless which is the important thing - especially when he's not allowing other students the same sort of leeway he is giving you. Do you have advisors at your college? I would speak to one about it and see what they say you should do. He should be allowing all students time to take notes and affording them the same respect he gives you, like learning their names. That's a really awkward position you've been put in and I hope it works out. :(

Edited at February 9, 2019 02:12 PM by hawksmoor
Confusion and Stress February 9, 2019 02:07 PM

Paradox Elites
 
Posts: 144
#314953
First off, your professor sounds like he is being failry flirty...I'd say keep an eye on it and try not to be in a room alone with him. Not saying anything WILL happen, but you shouldn't rule it out completely.

Second. My brother had ADD, ADHD and some other behavioral issues. He was on Concerta, Vivanse, and a couple other medications. I don't remember which ones were at which times. But, his growth was stunted, he had headaches and sometimes nausea. The thing that made my mom take him off meds altogether was when he woke up (at home in his bed) and couldn't remember where he was. He was about 14 or so I think. After he was taken off meds he grew a LOT and he hasn't had those problems since, besides an occasional migraine, but my mom gets those as well so maybe she passed that down, I'm not sure. He's 19 almost, and doing a lot better.

Hope you can get this all sorted out. I'd be willing to talk to my mom about the medication thing if you like.
Confusion and Stress February 9, 2019 02:15 PM

Etoile Noir Elites
 
Posts: 274
#314963


hawksmoor said:
I've taken Concerta before and had similar side effects. My doctor has me on both anti-anxiety and ADD medication, and being on the anti-anxiety as well has helped push back the side effects while letting my concentration improve. Definitely take those notes to your doctor and they will help you figure out what's best for you - I'm not trying to offer you medical advice, to be clear, medicine affects each person differently and your doctor will know what to do. But taking notes on your symptoms and side effects is a great idea and will help your doctor a lot!

The professor may not be flirting, but the favoritism is really unprofessional regardless - especially when he's not allowing other students the same sort of leeway he is giving you. Do you have advisors at your college? I would speak to one about it and see what they say you should do. He should be allowing all students time to take notes and affording them the same respect he gives you, like learning their names. That's a really awkward position you've been put in and I hope it works out. :(



Thank you for the insight. It helps to know I'm not the only one with these side effects. The doctor did warn about loss of appetite (not something I'm experiencing) and increased anxiety (maybe the rapid heart and nausea?) being common. They mentioned switching meds if it does have bad side effects for me. But I feel bad about that with my parents having paid $80 for a month supply...





Paradox Elites said:
First off, your professor sounds like he is being failry flirty...I'd say keep an eye on it and try not to be in a room alone with him. Not saying anything WILL happen, but you shouldn't rule it out completely.

Second. My brother had ADD, ADHD and some other behavioral issues. He was on Concerta, Vivanse, and a couple other medications. I don't remember which ones were at which times. But, his growth was stunted, he had headaches and sometimes nausea. The thing that made my mom take him off meds altogether was when he woke up (at home in his bed) and couldn't remember where he was. He was about 14 or so I think. After he was taken off meds he grew a LOT and he hasn't had those problems since, besides an occasional migraine, but my mom gets those as well so maybe she passed that down, I'm not sure. He's 19 almost, and doing a lot better.

Hope you can get this all sorted out. I'd be willing to talk to my mom about the medication thing if you like.



Thank you! I am already very very careful about being alone with men as I've been sexually assaulted before. This guy just kinda... His "flirting" makes me uncomfortable but he himself doesn't... As for the meds, I'm 19 and never been on any. Felt the need to get diagnosed and medicated after I went from a 4.0 to a 1.8 GPA in one semester due to inability to focus in class and horrible memory for due dates and mixing up due dates. I have had a few really good bursts of time so far on this medication where I am able to focus and remember stuff really well again. And then this morning had a bad bit where I was "remembering" stuff my mom says never happened and not remembering things she says she told me. It's also been making me super emotional and irritable at times (crying cause mom said I'm remembering wrong, sobbing cause spilled some dirt and a couple seedlings when transplanting basil, yelling in frustration over really stupid stuff)
Confusion and Stress February 11, 2019 02:36 PM
Stethoscope Stables
 
Posts: 221
#316563
I've never experienced what you are going through to the degree you are but it might help if you try to relax a bit more, asin, maybe you are too stressed. My grades got that bad once and it was mostly due to stress.
Keeping notes about your symptoms and what are eat is excellent! I don't know a lot about medicine, but it sounds like that may not be a good medicine for you.
I hope it all works out for you!
Confusion and Stress February 12, 2019 12:04 PM

Chidori
 
Posts: 415
#317014
I've had similar situations with one of my teachers. It was a computer programming class so he didn't get many girl students. I won't go on too much but he even made his password my name... Ugh he gave me the creeps.

One thing you could try is make him not like you. Im not saying be rude or let your grades drop but definitely don't encourage his flirty attitude towards you. When he makes a weird joke like taking him out to dinner try not to laugh. Just don't go along with his act if that makes sense. Hopefully if he doesn't get the response from you that he is wanting he will stop.

With him being a professor he definitely shouldnt be doing/saying things like that. But it's also hard to tell if he is being serious or just joking around so try not to stress about it too much. I would suggest speaking to an advisor or counseling at your school if this gets worse or he makes you even more uncomfortable. Good luck and keep us updated if you need any more help :)
Confusion and Stress February 12, 2019 12:09 PM

Etoile Noir Elites
 
Posts: 274
#317018


Chidori said:
I've had similar situations with one of my teachers. It was a computer programming class so he didn't get many girl students. I won't go on too much but he even made his password my name... Ugh he gave me the creeps.

One thing you could try is make him not like you. Im not saying be rude or let your grades drop but definitely don't encourage his flirty attitude towards you. When he makes a weird joke like taking him out to dinner try not to laugh. Just don't go along with his act if that makes sense. Hopefully if he doesn't get the response from you that he is wanting he will stop.

With him being a professor he definitely shouldnt be doing/saying things like that. But it's also hard to tell if he is being serious or just joking around so try not to stress about it too much. I would suggest speaking to an advisor or counseling at your school if this gets worse or he makes you even more uncomfortable. Good luck and keep us updated if you need any more help :)



Thank you! Good advice! I appreciate it. I get really awkward and uncomfortable and my general reaction is to just go with it. I'll try ignoring it. The thing I really don't get is why me... like... I'm not really pretty... I never put any effort into how I look or what I wear... there are so many prettier girls and so many girls who would appreciate his flirting and stuff...
Confusion and Stress February 12, 2019 01:06 PM

Chidori
 
Posts: 415
#317048
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And really anything could cause it. As long as he isn't coming off too strong I wouldn't let your imagination run away and blow this up if it causes this much trouble for you. I agree it's weird but a LOT of men, especially older men, flirt with girls. You are 19 right? Im 20 and have been a waitress for 4 years and have learned to deal with flirty men. I know that is a little different from teacher and student but im just trying to say that it's kinda a normal thing for young women. And it will most likely happen to you again someday.

Just don't stress too much. You control half of the situation. If he starts a flirty conversation you can say how it ends. This goes back to not playing along with him. You can always tell the school board and they will put an end to it. Either way you can stop this so don't be afraid of him. You'll be fine!

Edited at February 12, 2019 04:11 PM by Chidori
Confusion and Stress February 12, 2019 02:49 PM

Columet Farms
 
Posts: 931
#317086
Those are common side effects for that drug. I would definitely put in a call to the docs office and discuss other options.
Can you get the credit for the theater class another way? When I was your age I wouldn't have wanted to make a big stink about a flirty professor either but I see things a bit differently now. He shouldn't be flirting with students, not just because of the age range but because it's unprofessional. He's flirting in a situation that's inherently unequal and that's not right.
At the very least, go to the department head or the head of the humanities school.

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