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I need help, how do people with bad anxiety get through it? I am struggling so much, and recently I've signed up for a new job, and applied for a course next year. I am absolutely shit scared of people. I had a work induction this morning and I did no sleep at all last night just absolutely terrified of the fact that I would be in a room of people likely years older than me, and me just standing there lost as hell. The induction litterally wasn't even that bad. It was a little akward but absolutely not worth a sleepless night. . I've spend so much of my day moping around and sobbing because I will actually have to work with strangers, and the fact that I am not confident doing anything without people giving me crystal clear instructions and now I'm terrified once I actually work my supervisor will get very fed up with me needing constant reassurance I'm doing the right thing. Other problem, is my course next year which is a 2 year diploma for vet nursing. I have already done the pre-entry course this year, and my grades have slowly gotten worse, because the more people critique my work, the worse I feel about doing something and the more it stresses me out so the less quality the assesment actually is (It's been a 1-2% drop per assesment). This course was only 6 months. I would hate to think how bad I will get over a whole 2 years, with more and harder work too. . I've thought about trying to get some sort of medication for it, but ironically enough, far too anxious to all my doctor and book an appointment or ask if that is even something he can prescribe 🙃 I've been hoping for the last 6 years at least that it was an age thing I would grow out of it. I have not, infact it has just gotten so much worse and now I actually have to be independant and self-sufficient. I just don't know what to do, or how to help myself get over it at all. I feel so pathetic and dependant but I hate it so much. |
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Whatever you do, do not get medication. The worst stuff on the planet. This is going to sound really stupid but it works for my anxiety, depression and stress. So basically, I took a sheet of paper and wrote down all my fears and anxieties, plus all the things that would stress me out on a day to day basis. I created like a little sticker chart sheet for myself. I find seeing something rewarding is the only way I could get over this myself. So for example. Task 1 - eat breakfast Task 2 - make the bed Task 3 - have a shower Task 3a - wash hair Task 3b - wash body etc etc. Then I would buy some gold sticky stars and everyday, when I did a task I would stick the sticky next to it and give myself a physical pat on the back for doing a good job. I did something today! Hooray. More than some people yknow. Change is hard. Adapting to it is harder. A normal part of life. People with anxiety just need to break down the stimuli into really simple things. So an example for you might be. Task 1 - Put number in the phone Task 2 - Let it ring Task 3 - Talk to someone/literally anyone, could be a friend and they could roleplay a receptionist to help you. Task 4 - Book an appointment (again anything, use a friend to help you roleplay if need be. Task 5 - Attend (But break this down into little steps) Heavily reward yourself when you achieve even one of these things. Stepping outside my front door can sometimes be a challenge in itself. My big reward is going home. So the reward can be anything as well (Just not food- as we don't want to start an unheathly relationship there) Even if you only complete one task today. It was more than yesterday. Adopting a positive mindset will be the only way to continue to motivate yourself into pushing yourself to do the tasks daily. And then, when your confident enough, book yourself into a therapist and go see someone. Take a friend with you, let them drive if need be. They may suggest CBT which I would recommend going to. |
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medication really helped me. trust in science to do it's thing. if your anxiety is crippling you, your doctor can absolutely help. It's not for everyone but for me it's really saved me. if you hate it, you can always stop. |
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also betterhelp.com i think is free therapy. and it's a video call. so you can always just hang up lmao |
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As someone who struggles with anxiety, my best advice is get a routine and stick to it. Wake up, bathroom, shower, breakfast, yoga. A walk. Head to the barn or wherever. Typically my daily thing. Except crohn's most days keeps me from eating breakfast lol. But you get the point. I tried meds, they didn't work for me. Exacerbated my symptoms and made me see things. They might work for you. Getting fit, on a fitness routine. Like calisthenics type fit. Give yourself a challenge. I'm rather sick, but still doing this myself. The hardest first step is taking the initial move to better things yourself. Drinking plenty of water, getting your vitamins and electrolytes a day, I use LMNT electrolytes. Yoga. Walking, strength training. All help me. Being with and training my horses. Some video games and sister calls often. Keeps me from my head. Reading and school are a life saver. Movies and some video games. A routine is crucial. Get up. Get moving and stay hydrated and fed often. Good food. Not out to eat junk. Veggies and fruits, whole foods and little meals often. Living with a situation i can't change for many reasons, I find happy in the little things. Will gladly answer any questions and help in any way I can. Typing this on my phone, so keeping it short right now lol. It sounds like you overthink a lot. I do at times, but all the above help me. At the end of the day, just tell myself it's not real with anxiety. The more you nit pick and worry for stuff that HAS NOT happened, the worse off you feel. Trust God and read the Bible. It helps me immensely. A sleep schedule is important too. |
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Bioshock Manor said:
As someone who struggles with anxiety, my best advice is get a routine and stick to it. Wake up, bathroom, shower, breakfast, yoga. A walk. Head to the barn or wherever. Typically my daily thing. Except crohn's most days keeps me from eating breakfast lol. But you get the point. I tried meds, they didn't work for me. Exacerbated my symptoms and made me see things. They might work for you. Getting fit, on a fitness routine. Like calisthenics type fit. Give yourself a challenge. I'm rather sick, but still doing this myself. The hardest first step is taking the initial move to better things yourself. Drinking plenty of water, getting your vitamins and electrolytes a day, I use LMNT electrolytes. Yoga. Walking, strength training. All help me. Being with and training my horses. Some video games and sister calls often. Keeps me from my head. Reading and school are a life saver. Movies and some video games. A routine is crucial. Get up. Get moving and stay hydrated and fed often. Good food. Not out to eat junk. Veggies and fruits, whole foods and little meals often. Living with a situation i can't change for many reasons, I find happy in the little things. Will gladly answer any questions and help in any way I can. Typing this on my phone, so keeping it short right now lol. It sounds like you overthink a lot. I do at times, but all the above help me. At the end of the day, just tell myself it's not real with anxiety. The more you nit pick and worry for stuff that HAS NOT happened, the worse off you feel. Trust God and read the Bible. It helps me immensely. A sleep schedule is important too.
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My roommate uses medication for her issues. It doesn't always work for her, but she does try to stick to a routine. Me sticking to a routine helps me a lot. Also if you have friends to talk to that can help, and doing things to help relax after something stressful is good. As Bioshock said if you're into reading, gaming, watching movies do things that help relax you and bring you some pleasure. Me I do all of the above as well, and I also help a friend develop games it's mostly doing color pallet stuff, but hey it lets me forget about my anxity. |
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Thanks guys I could try a routine of some sorts, but I fear my hours are too constantly changing to have one fully in place that will work. Especially going to work with the days being anywhere from 7.30am-1pm to 5am-7pm. I don't know how to get myself to not worry about anything lmao. If I'm doing something that I like I'm constantly thinking about everything else that I need to do but aren't doing. Im hoping between now and next February I can sort everything out because there's no way I can go do a diploma with the mentality I have right now. |
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The other thing you can try is meditating. That helps me a lot also when nothing else works. |
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I take magnesium glycinate. I think I was deficient. It is just supplemental magesium, but all my anxiety disappeared. |
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