Elfs mental health is in the shiter

After 15 yes of marriage I'm picking up the pieces that my husband ls a narcissist

I've been doing alot of reading and listening to pod casts

And just too many of the peices fit.

They're never sorry

They can't take responsibility for their actions

The name calling, etc

Checks all the boxes.

So I've been scare around HEE because I've been soul searching

I know it can't continue, but leaving is also just as heartbreaking......

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I've been where you are right now and know that it is extremely hard to deal with mentally and emotionally. Please make sure you have consistent support for yourself in place (family, friends, therapist, support group) as you will need it. If you have children, make sure they have that type support as well. Even though the situation may be confusing or mentally draining right now, there is light at the end of the tunnel and you will come out stronger on the other side.

Hugs. Sometimes the scariest step is the next one, the unknown one- but once you've taken it, and you're on the other side of it, you're going to feel so much relief and happiness.

Sorry you have had to put up with this.

Stay brave, you have my best wishes xx

I spent five years dealing with what you are now. Please know it's okay to leave... But please do so as carefully as you can. Have family or friends help you, contact abuse hotlines, etc. If you have kids, try to document proof of the abuse. There is absolutely no shame in leaving a narcissistic partner, and I know that getting the courage to leave is difficult - you've spent years being tore down and mistreated, but please know that there is a light at the end of that tunnel and it is possible to start over from nothing, even if it is scary.