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Rainbow
10:12:00 Rainy/Prism/Chrome
People are weird in general lol
Tobiano Lady
10:09:57 Tobi 👻
People are weird for being weird about divorced parents.
Rainbow
10:06:45 Rainy/Prism/Chrome
Bird
Oh wow, yeah, you were an infant! Whatever your parents did has nothing to do with you at that point. I don't know why someone would judge a kid for having divorced parents. That's just wild.
Lunar Wilds
10:06:38 Lux - AAs
Bird
He didn’t realize, he backtracked some once he was told but he also had a habit of mansplaining that made it very funny to be a part of haha
Hummingbird Meadows
10:05:25 Bird
@Lux, sounds like he needed to vent. That or didn't realize everyone at the table had divorced parents. XD
Lunar Wilds
10:05:10 Lux - AAs
Bird
I’m sorry they were so close minded about it
Lunar Wilds
10:04:35 Lux - AAs
Bird
I once went on a double date where the other’s guy talked about how traumatic their parents amicable divorce was and how we didn’t know how divorce could be damaging for kids (they were 17 when it happened). While divorce can be traumatic and damaging, he was talking to a table full of people with divorced parents
Hummingbird Meadows
10:03:44 Bird
@Rainy, I have been looked down on it for my whole life even though I wasn't even 1 when it happened. It sucks.
Rainbow
10:03:06 Rainy/Prism/Chrome
Bird
That's a shame. It's not like you had any control over that!
Rainbow
10:02:28 Rainy/Prism/Chrome
Tobi
Yeah, it can be annoying for sure. I think everyone does it to a degree, though.

Hummingbird Meadows
09:58:10 Bird
This was a different guy too, not the tree guy.
Hummingbird Meadows
09:57:54 Bird
On a different date the guy wanted to know about what it's like being a kid to divorced parents. He was extremely turned off by the fact my parents were divorced. =/
Hummingbird Meadows
09:56:31 Bird
I think it was the fact that he talked about his special interest and himself for the whole hour and a half that bothered me.
Snitches' Stitches
09:55:45 Snitch
Trees in general. He always had to stop whatever we were doing and identify them
Afterglow Radio
09:55:14 Tobi | SA
Yeah the special interest talk isn't bad. Just can be for the wrong person lol

The talking about yourself the whole time tho?? That's crazy. I always worry that I talk too much about myself just in one simple conversation lol
Hummingbird Meadows
09:54:12 Bird
@Snitch, was he fascinated with tree rings too?
Rainbow
09:54:07 Rainy/Prism/Chrome
Then again, I'm very likely to talk people's ears off about my special interests, so yannow. No one's perfect lol.
Snitches' Stitches
09:53:51 Snitch
Bird
You literally just described my ex lmao
MakeEm Fancy
09:49:46 Ally 💜
XD
Rainbow
09:49:14 Rainy/Prism/Chrome
Bird
Oh lord. That's how to impress a lady (I'm assuming), wow her with tree facts and make sure to emphasize how great you are (sarcasm)

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Rainbow
10:12:00 Rainy/Prism/Chrome
People are weird in general lol
Tobiano Lady
10:09:57 Tobi 👻
People are weird for being weird about divorced parents.
Rainbow
10:06:45 Rainy/Prism/Chrome
Bird
Oh wow, yeah, you were an infant! Whatever your parents did has nothing to do with you at that point. I don't know why someone would judge a kid for having divorced parents. That's just wild.
Lunar Wilds
10:06:38 Lux - AAs
Bird
He didn’t realize, he backtracked some once he was told but he also had a habit of mansplaining that made it very funny to be a part of haha
Hummingbird Meadows
10:05:25 Bird
@Lux, sounds like he needed to vent. That or didn't realize everyone at the table had divorced parents. XD
Lunar Wilds
10:05:10 Lux - AAs
Bird
I’m sorry they were so close minded about it
Lunar Wilds
10:04:35 Lux - AAs
Bird
I once went on a double date where the other’s guy talked about how traumatic their parents amicable divorce was and how we didn’t know how divorce could be damaging for kids (they were 17 when it happened). While divorce can be traumatic and damaging, he was talking to a table full of people with divorced parents
Hummingbird Meadows
10:03:44 Bird
@Rainy, I have been looked down on it for my whole life even though I wasn't even 1 when it happened. It sucks.
Rainbow
10:03:06 Rainy/Prism/Chrome
Bird
That's a shame. It's not like you had any control over that!
Rainbow
10:02:28 Rainy/Prism/Chrome
Tobi
Yeah, it can be annoying for sure. I think everyone does it to a degree, though.

Hummingbird Meadows
09:58:10 Bird
This was a different guy too, not the tree guy.
Hummingbird Meadows
09:57:54 Bird
On a different date the guy wanted to know about what it's like being a kid to divorced parents. He was extremely turned off by the fact my parents were divorced. =/
Hummingbird Meadows
09:56:31 Bird
I think it was the fact that he talked about his special interest and himself for the whole hour and a half that bothered me.
Snitches' Stitches
09:55:45 Snitch
Trees in general. He always had to stop whatever we were doing and identify them
Afterglow Radio
09:55:14 Tobi | SA
Yeah the special interest talk isn't bad. Just can be for the wrong person lol

The talking about yourself the whole time tho?? That's crazy. I always worry that I talk too much about myself just in one simple conversation lol
Hummingbird Meadows
09:54:12 Bird
@Snitch, was he fascinated with tree rings too?
Rainbow
09:54:07 Rainy/Prism/Chrome
Then again, I'm very likely to talk people's ears off about my special interests, so yannow. No one's perfect lol.
Snitches' Stitches
09:53:51 Snitch
Bird
You literally just described my ex lmao
MakeEm Fancy
09:49:46 Ally 💜
XD
Rainbow
09:49:14 Rainy/Prism/Chrome
Bird
Oh lord. That's how to impress a lady (I'm assuming), wow her with tree facts and make sure to emphasize how great you are (sarcasm)

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Riding Issues January 21, 2022 04:21 PM


Dusk acres
 
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*Disclaimer, I did not know whether to put this in the snark factory or the paddock so if this is in the wrong category please forgive!*

So I've been riding for 4(?) years now. I'm only just now learning how to canter! I feel like at first I was learning a ton and progressing each lesson. But now I just to the same trot work to "Fix my lower leg" but alas, 6 months went by and no progress. I barely ever canter and when I do it's just my instructor saying "no, no! Wrong leg! Wrong leg! Are you listening?!" I used to think it was fine but then my friend started cantering in just a year. Should I get a new instructor? Or am I just a slow learner?

Riding Issues January 21, 2022 04:37 PM


SandWitch Arabians
 
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Everyone learns at a different pace. 'Wrong leg' doesn't tell you much. Does your instructor go into more detail ? You might ask them to show you what they mean.
Riding Issues January 21, 2022 04:39 PM


FirstLightFarms

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As an instructor, I have kids that are ready to canter in six months and kids that are ready in two years and some that will simply never be at that level. Cantering is faster and more unsteady and any weaknesses a rider has at the trot are going to create a dangerous situation at the canter. Everybody learns at their own pace.
The kids that are easiest to teach are the ones that actually put in the work and TRUST me. When I say "heels down", they put their heels down, even if it feels wrong because they've grown used to having their heels up. In this sport, if you're not uncomfortable, you're not going to improve. It's like writing with your opposite hand. Of course it feels wrong. You've been doing it a different way for your whole life. But once you push through that discomfort, and you can write left handed or put your heels down, then a whole world opens up to you.
That being said, it is highly possible that you and your coach aren't meshing. It may be worth visiting another barn, if what she says and how she says it isn't clicking with you. There's nothing wrong with needing a different type of instruction.
Riding Issues January 21, 2022 04:39 PM


Dusk acres
 
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Ive asked them, apparently im cueing for the canter with the wrong leg, ive tried to fix it but nothing workes ; (

SandWitch Arabians said:
Everyone learns at a different pace. 'Wrong leg' doesn't tell you much. Does your instructor go into more detail ? You might ask them to show you what they mean.


Riding Issues January 21, 2022 04:40 PM


Dusk acres
 
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FirstLightFarms said:
As an instructor, I have kids that are ready to canter in six months and kids that are ready in two years and some that will simply never be at that level. Cantering is faster and more unsteady and any weaknesses a rider has at the trot are going to create a dangerous situation at the canter. Everybody learns at their own pace.
The kids that are easiest to teach are the ones that actually put in the work and TRUST me. When I say "heels down", they put their heels down, even if it feels wrong because they've grown used to having their heels up. In this sport, if you're not uncomfortable, you're not going to improve. It's like writing with your opposite hand. Of course it feels wrong. You've been doing it a different way for your whole life. But once you push through that discomfort, and you can write left handed or put your heels down, then a whole world opens up to you.
That being said, it is highly possible that you and your coach aren't meshing. It may be worth visiting another barn, if what she says and how she says it isn't clicking with you. There's nothing wrong with needing a different type of instruction.


Riding Issues January 22, 2022 03:57 PM


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I teach younger kids occasionally, and one thing i can tell you is that everybody had different progress levels. Its taken me 8 years of riding 3 times a week to get me at the level im at. Its hard work!
But i understand its hard. Especially in canter, which is a very different pace to walk or trot! its hard to get used too sometimes. Try talking to your coach about explaining things a little better and more thouroughly. Just like you, i spent 4 years just really learning how to master walk trot and canter before i started jumping and doing dressage and more complicated stuff! a piece of advice ill give you is to not be afraid to stop, take a breath and talk to your instructor about whats going on. If they are telling you "wrong leg!" ask them how to fix it. Ask them how to show you how to get on the correct leg. It took me 4 years to finally realize all i had to do was ask, and stop being scared of my horse and my instructor. If you ever need riding advice for cantering, leg positioning, whatever, just message me! im not a professional by any means but ive been riding for a while now, on a lot of different horses. And just like you its taken me many many years of training to progress! Just remember to always have fun and enjoy everything <3
Riding Issues August 16, 2022 10:23 AM


Dusk acres
 
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I switched instructors and and now can canter!
Riding Issues August 21, 2022 02:24 AM


Helderfontein
 
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Yay, that's so exciting! I hope you're enjoying yourself!

I started riding when I was 6. I cantered on my first ride and properly learned how to canter within the first week.

not only is each rider diffrent, but each instructor is different too. Some don't know how to teach beginners, some don't know how to teach advanced riders. Some(often the ones who had to work harder at it and may not be 'naturally talented') are really good at explaining 'things' thoroughly and clearly(and will re-explain it if asked), and others(often the 'naturally talented' riders) can't or don't know how to explain 'things' properly. It's just a matter of finding an instructor that not only suits your needs, but one who you can trust(and who trusts you), and who will explain 'things' to your understanding. Also one that you get along with, because that is also very important.

I hope you like your new instructor!

Riding Issues August 21, 2022 04:19 PM


Dusk acres
 
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Thank you so much! My old instuctors teaching style did not fit well with my learning style and it took me 3 years to understand that, now im doing so much better and learning so much more!

Helderfontein said:

Yay, that's so exciting! I hope you're enjoying yourself!

I started riding when I was 6. I cantered on my first ride and properly learned how to canter within the first week.

not only is each rider diffrent, but each instructor is different too. Some don't know how to teach beginners, some don't know how to teach advanced riders. Some(often the ones who had to work harder at it and may not be 'naturally talented') are really good at explaining 'things' thoroughly and clearly(and will re-explain it if asked), and others(often the 'naturally talented' riders) can't or don't know how to explain 'things' properly. It's just a matter of finding an instructor that not only suits your needs, but one who you can trust(and who trusts you), and who will explain 'things' to your understanding. Also one that you get along with, because that is also very important.

I hope you like your new instructor!



Riding Issues August 22, 2022 09:22 PM


Helderfontein
 
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Yay, glad to hear it!

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