Thank you for explaining!!

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If you'd like some info on the matter I'll ramble a bit here, if not then.. well, feel free to not read it, haha! And keep in mind, I am admittedly somewhat building a strawman of sorts to argue against here, with positions I assume you/your environment might hold, since I don't know much of what you do believe!

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First of all, both queer and LGBTQ+ are umbrella terms, encompassing many identities, none of which people choose for themselves, but rather things they are born with! In a world where being gay or transgender can put you in the way of physical harm and horrible discrimination (due to which people often end up in poverty), would one really choose to be that? Or take intersex people, who are also included under the umbrella term, would you say they chose to be intersex? That it's a path they're taking? Surely not!

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I'm assuming when you see the terms queer or LGBTQ+, you probably default to homosexuality in your head, [and again, this is fully an assumption; as mentioned in my second paragraph, I'm going to be assigning you some viewpoints here only to be able to built my arguments and better explain things; I by no means truly believe you hold these positions/think this way, that is for you to know <3] so I won't be focusing much on other identities in detail because I feel that might be pointless and only more confusing!

Something I've seen argued in regards to choice when it comes to homosexuality (especially by religious people), is that while the inclination/attraction might be inborn, acting on it isn't. Which, I guess is... technically true? But I feel like that agrument completely disregards the humanity of people. What I mean is, it's easy to say "just don't act on it", but you'd have to disregard- either by choice or simply by ignorance- what that sort of repression does to a person. Never being romantically fulfilled your entirely life despite wanting to be sounds like a horrible way to live, does it not? The expectation of people who argue this is that either you live without romantic and sexual relationships completely, or that you force yourself into heterosexual ones; and both of those are inhumane and cruel things to suggest.

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What I mean to portray with all this is that being gay, like any other queer identity, is not a choice, nor just a path one decides to take on a whim; and acting on those 'inclinations' simply means not repressing oneself and existing in a healthy manner! Suggesting otherwise leads to some cruel viewpoints and ideas, that would strip queer people of their humanity and rights to self-actualization.

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Circling back to what you said, you not wanting to "choose the path", as you put it, is just like this! If you're straight, and cisgender, and everything outside the queer umbrella, that is also not a choice, that is just you, and how you are! :) Many people are like that, in fact the majority of the population is!