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i had lunch at 12. i come home around 7 and ask my parents what i can have for dinner. they say "whatever you can find in the fridge, that isnt for the boys" well, thats nothing. All we have are some yougurts. 2. for my brothers. My parents have been feeding my brothers leftovers, and me whatever they can find or they put of my dinner and make me wait for the next day by saying "you can have extra breakfast tomorrow." im 60 pounds at 14-15 and lost 50 pounds in a 2 years. The doctors are worried about my weight and my mom was supposedly worried. We havnt been to costco in 3 months. So am i acting spoiled because i have been nagging my parents for more food? they made it sound like i was. |
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I mean I don't know honestly, I'm older than you and the same weight, some people are just naturally small. If you really feel like they're keeping you from eating the amount you should then I reccomend trying to talk to them about it. |
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No, not at all, that is extremely unhealthy for you, and unacceptable behavior from your parents, if they aren't properly feeding and taking care of you, especially to such a degree of weight loss that is a medical concern from your doctors, it's important to seek out a trusted adult who can help you navigate the situation and get you back into a healthy state. |
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Your parents should never make you go without dinner or any meal for that matter I am sorry you are dealing with this you are not spoiled you are hungry |
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There's a part of me that wonders about your parents' financial situation and if they're able to afford food rather than this being a case of just straight-up neglect. And then them choosing to prioritize your brothers because of the whole "oh they're growing boys!" bullshit narrative when you are in equal need of calories, especially as a teenager. Losing 50# in two years is insane for anyone unless they're signficiantly overweight to start out with and that doesn't sound like the case here. Advocating for yourself and your health is in no way a "privilege" or "spoiled behavior." You deserve food as much as anyone else in that house and I hope that you speak up for yourself to get what you need. If that's not something that your parents are willing/able to provide for you, then I support what has been said above about seeking out a trusted adult and finding someone to help. I hope things get better <3 |
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I hope you do get the proper food. If you think they aren't feeding you right you need to tell someone about it because it's not likely your parents will stop if you don't act on it. Personally, I can relate about my docter being concerned for my weigh but it's a health thing for me because my aderall makes me have less of an appiete. I've lost like 6 pounds this year, so def can relate on that. Good luck though and I hope you get better! |
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I mean I don't know honestly, I'm older than you and the same weight, some people are just naturally small. If you really feel like they're keeping you from eating the amount you should then I reccomend trying to talk to them about it.
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I'll echo what other folks here have said, in that what you've described is extremely unhealthy and you need to find a trusted adult to talk to about it—no parent should be routinely skipping their child's meals. Sixty pounds at your age and height is underweight, especially if your doctors have raised concerns. Given that your doctors do seem to be on the same page about that, it might be worth also trying to talk to one of them alone at some point next time you visit and tell them what's going on/ask for help. Lots of pediatric doctors will even try and offer you a chance to talk to them without your parents in the room, for exactly this sort of situation. A little tip to help short-term, from someone who's gone hungry as an adult more than once: try and make sure you're drinking enough water. Obviously that won't fix you being hungry, and it's no replacement for food or help, but dehydration can make you feel a lot worse and it's easy to forget to drink enough when you're already not feeling well. But yeah, more than anything else you should talk to a trusted adult about this. You're not spoiled, you deserve to eat, and if your parents aren't feeding you then someone else needs to step in and help. I'm sending all my best thoughts your way, and I really hope you can get enough to eat soon. <3 |
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If you're a minor dealing with food insecurity at home and your health is suffering, and your parents aren't responsive, reach out to any of the adults at your school -- teachers, counselors, anyone. Any adult employed there is going to be a mandated reporter who by law has to address the situation. |
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Dear Full Moon, Please reach out, and quickly. I know that you are aware that this situation is very detrimental to your long term health or you would not have written your clear issue here. There is lots of help available, but the people are not psychic, you need to knock on their door and let them know. Your family is having a crisis for some reason so you will have to seek help elsewhere for a while. Do your brothers also need help? Good luck & stay strong inside your head. |
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