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I agree, Communication is always a good key and Zero is right, the ones that matter will not mind and will understand you ♡ Aww, I am glad I cheered you up but, honestly don't be envious (but I get it). We live at an apartment so it's not even ours 😭 but I too dream to have a house with my own pool as well! Ooo weddings, those can be fun. Congratulations to the niece!
ZeroZero said:
But a few texts start you off Quality (well done). You realise you are normal as you share, it puts things in perspective. I've mostly been a loner, I really understand your statement 'socializing takes mental energy'. But I work hard now at being loyal to the groups I do belong to. I've figured out that people are very variable. So respond in your own time, the ones that don't mind will respond back. My sister got the sociability chip, she has just come off holiday with a friend. I can only dream of that. But what the hell I'm OK. ** Whispers reply to my ramble above really cheered me up. Except of course no one in my family or friends have their very own pool! Pretty green with envy as I do love to swim. But I do get to see them all more often. Distances in the UK are a lot smaller which makes it easier. My niece is getting maried next year, we are all looking forward to that big time.
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I can definitely relate to that. Home is my safe place too, and being around people I'm comfortable with is completely different from being out in the world. It sounds like you've found some really healthy ways to manage your anxiety: your horse, dog, reading, and HEE all sound like great escapes. I also think it's wonderful that your family understands when you need to step away and recharge. Having that kind of support makes such a difference.
Bright Farm said:
Social Anxiety! I happily spend my time alone or with family at home. I live with my sister. The only other people I see are my family and family's friends who are all welcome here (I don't have to leave home). Including family, most of our friends are cowboy/cow girls who work on cattle ranches and rodeo. We talk about horses, rodeos, old times and we cook for them. This does not cause anxiety for me. Going away from home is much more difficult, but lately my Mom, siblings and I have been getting together once a month at a quiet inn with a really big beautiful pool and outdoor spaces. it is great but even there I sneak away from them for a few hours and stay in the room in the dark just to get my anxiety calmed. They know. My horse, my dog, reading and HEE are my escape from the world havens! DIY therapy!
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I think it's pretty common as we get older that a few close friends and a peaceful home starts sounding more appealing than trying to keep up with big social circles. Quality over quantity! 😅
Stormsong Manor said:
I don't have social anxiety but I've become more reclusive and happy to be at home as I age. The big friend groups that came with school years have mostly split up and moved all around the country. I have a couple hometown people now who I'll hang out with for playdates with our kids, but I'm super happy not being a social butterfly.
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