I'm not the best with relationships...so this analogy will not be the best But say you have a rescue animal with some bad behavioural problems, where do you start? Break the problems down into a few smaller ones and start with the easier ones I told you it's not the best but kinda gets my point across XD
Try to fix it if that's really what you want to do or if you believe there's actually a chance to. But if you can't it's fine to leave. And it doesn't mean that you are a failure as a wife or woman or a mother if you can't fix someone else. In the end it's about what you believe is best for yourself and for your child. Only you can make the decision for yourself no matter what anyone else says.
If its toxic and not working then staying isnt likely the best thing for anyone. Including/especially your kid. Its better to be in a healthy environment with parents that love you but are sepoerate than to be in a toxic one with parents that end up hating each other.
He isnt using. The last time he did was back in December and we had a long and i mean long talk about it. He has gone behind my back about it but we are together 24/7 so i know he hasnt since December. I get he is an adult but this is the only thing that i have told him i didnt want in my life or our daughters life. :/ he listens to wait i have to say he just doesnt get it i feel like. I love him but it honestly is turning toxic and im trying to fix it for our daughter and it just doesnt get resolved because all we do when we try to talk is fight @jacob
You sure he isnt using? Honestly hes an adult hes going to make his choices and because your married youll have to deal with them or leave. If he usnt willing to listen to you what choice do you have. Staying somewhere toxic just leads to mistrust and resentment and an unhappy home.